Warning: this one’s gonna be a bit personal. Do not read if you do not like happy endings.
Do you Dream BIG?
Apparently this is hot again. Ameriprise Financial used the phrase as the theme for their 2007 top-producers to-do. My Yahoo! search for the term “dream big” this morning turned up over four million hits for the exact phrase.
In 2002, Oprah Winfrey masterminded her Big-Dream Contest, and I first heard the phrase “dream big.” The winning essayists would have Oprah’s help starting on their way to fulfilling their Big Dream. I didn’t enter. I was a seven-year victim of domestic violence then. I wrote three drafts for my entry. I took my copy of the September issue (I think she’s great, but it’s still the only O Magazine I’ve ever purchased) off my shelf and read and re-read about the first winners, read the rules for the second contest.
I dreamed BIG. I wanted to own my own firm again. I thought about bringing all my skills together to truly lift small firms up. I wanted to create a multidisciplinary firm where great design is a partner to great strategy, and a servant to growing businesses. I wrote, I dreamed, I wrote, then I hid what I had written, because that was what I had to do. Now never mind the hubris of this, but I felt I couldn’t enter, because what if I won? How much trouble would it cause? I couldn’t risk it.
I keep the issue in a special place to remind me, and that cover still gets me: Dream Big.
Not once in those big plans, did I discuss getting out. At that time it was inconceivable, and not yet even desirable. I wanted my intellectual freedom, and that’s what I wrote about, not my physical freedom.
I am now a survivor of all those years of d.v. It’s not an achievement, really, so although I am HAPPY, I don’t think proud is exactly the word I’d choose. I still Dream Big, and I still believe each of us business people must.
Make Dream BIG Work for You
My work dreams center around growing my business (and this blog!) so I can reach out to more businesses in need: Dream Big, and follow three simple rules: Execute, Execute, Execute. (If it were that simple, I’d never write again!)
The difference between dreaming big, and getting there, is all in the attempts. When all I did was write about Experience Design, and hide the drafts in a magazine, I got nowhere, and no one heard me. Now I shout it all the time, and I get to be in on all sorts of Big Dreams as a result.
Oprah did reach out to me that year, even though I didn’t write to her at the time. When I thought hard about my professional goals I put myself on a path to move right through and past my personal hell.
Maybe your story is nothing like mine (I really hope not), but how can you position yourself to move past a barrier, and will you chart new growth for your firm as a result? I believe in lists and planning, even if you hide yours in copy of Fortune or Inc. Write it down! Dream Big! Improve it! Then start shouting the Dream out loud!
Grow and be well,
Kelly Erickson











18 July 2008, 7:50 am
For some reason, I feel like you just kicked me in the butt. Did Dave Navarro suddenly take over control of your keyboard?
Thanks Kelly.
-Brett
18 July 2008, 8:33 am
Brett,
You’re welcome! Trying hard for 3/4 of a year now, darlin’. Glad to make contact so early in the a.m.
Regards,
Kelly
P.S. Oh, whew! Viking Fridays is up. Went to 6 weeks, last post vanished, no VF, I was worried about you all morning. Back to read & comment on VF a little later.
18 July 2008, 8:40 am
Kelly,
Yeah - Friar mentioned something about my last post going AWOL. I am not sure what happened or where it went. I’ll have to figure that out, because I did nothing to it. Strange.
Maybe WP is going nuts. Dave Navarro’s whole blog is gone today (or it was when I last checked).
-Brett
Brett Legree’s last blog post…viking fridays - a long road.
18 July 2008, 8:42 am
PS - my last post is still available via my admin panel… so not sure what’s up. Oh well. Bigger fish to fry!
18 July 2008, 12:03 pm
Kelly,
08/08 is called freedom anniversary day around here.
Boy do I get it big time. 18 years free now. And yep about that proud thing too. I sure understand that.
And having to make plans…yep…
Glad you have a happy ending..glad for both of us.
There are SO many of us.
It goes to show that dreams CAN come true. Written dreams and plans can happen. And what feels like an ugly reality forever can be just a moment in time that can fade away and life can be beautiful again.
hugs.
Wendi Kelly’s last blog post…Big Erasers
18 July 2008, 12:48 pm
Kelly — Isn’t it funny how we think we can write our ways out of certain situations? Or maybe we really do write our ways out of them? (Depending on what we’re going through and how we look at it.) I’d probably never have survived my childhood had I not been able to escape through writing. I wrote my first novel manuscript at 13. It took up ten spiral notebooks. My big dream then was getting out. And I did. So I guess we both won. Even if we didn’t enter the contest.
Amy’s last blog post…Dear Potential Client: Your Copy Sucks!
18 July 2008, 1:40 pm
Wendi,
Mine was 05/09. Funny thing to remember.
A lot of the time I can tell just from talking to people (though it’s different on the Internet). It’s not something I’ve made a secret of, so you probably didn’t need my secret handshake.
We’ve all got different barriers, but the one we put up for ourselves is being afraid to commit in the first place. That’s why I wanted to write this post. Committing to that dream eventually led to a fresh start, though it didn’t happen overnight by any means.
Amy,
Oh, yes. Writing has been a savior for me so many times. I could write a book just about that. Putting things on paper makes them real, like a Vision of the future, or in the case of writing a novel, maybe it purges some of the things that are too real.
Writing things down is a great kick in the butt.
Regards, my strong ladies,
Kelly
18 July 2008, 1:43 pm
Oh, and should he wander over from his own cozy den, thank you for the enhanced title, dear Editor.
18 July 2008, 4:36 pm
When I first contacted James at MwP about doing my site, I said, “I want to be the coolest fantasy editor around.”
Dream big, indeed. It’s fun!
@ Amy: you wrote your first novel at 13?! Excellent! Any more since then?
steph’s last blog post…All In a Day’s Work, Or, The Freelancing Life
18 July 2008, 4:38 pm
Steph — I have written several manuscripts for novels, but none I’ve ever worked on enough to get published. No fantasy novels though. (Sorry.)
Amy’s last blog post…Dear Potential Client: Your Copy Sucks!
18 July 2008, 4:41 pm
Steph,
I was thinking of you, and my email notification pinged me. Freaky.
You’re already cool, you don’t need help with that.
Yup. Dream Big for fun and profit. Like I always say… don’t I always say that?
Regards,
Kelly
18 July 2008, 5:12 pm
Cool! (The thinking of me part!)
And thank you.
PS. Yes, you always say that. You have to!!
steph’s last blog post…All In a Day’s Work, Or, The Freelancing Life
18 July 2008, 6:57 pm
sigh. I would like to say something brilliant here, but I am going to say Kelly this post is beyond cool.
I am smiling for you…
… and for the power of the few words you wrote on my blog this week.. “And besides it will look great in the book.”
Yes, it will.
It never hurts to dream big. What’s a silly little thing like fear to get in our way? We are after all Alpha Women.
Hi all, waves at everyone. Have a great weekend.
Janice Cartier’s last blog post…Where The Wild Things Are
18 July 2008, 7:09 pm
Janice,
Hi! Loved the Wild things Pictures today…Tell the Pen Men they can finish you first so that I can leave your comments on your own site where they belong, I’ll wait patiently.
Wendi Kelly’s last blog post…Big Erasers
18 July 2008, 7:51 pm
Steph,
Kelly the Klairvoyant. Krazy.
(Ouch!)
Janice,
Thanks so much. The timing was right for this post to come out. If I told you how long ago I wrote it you’d laugh.
Your artist’s statement, clients’ Vision statements, the Big Dream… so often they are sitting there right in front of you, but hard to see. Fresh eyes spot it for you.
Having been a very tiny splash in a very small artists’ pond at one time, and a lifelong fangirl of all artists everywhere, I remember the good and the bad in the books. Sometimes more than I remember the art. You nailed your statement while ranting against them. It’s brilliant.
Wendi,
You’re part of the harem too? Those boys must have some elixir they hand out after hours.
Until later,
Kelly