No Obligation…
As human beings, we seem to be born with a need to “give back” to others. We want to keep the balance of obligations even in our relationships.
Even a very young baby will smile back if you smile at her.
Later, we give to friends more readily when we get from them. Holiday cards, dinner invites, tips on where to save money on office supplies.
We may help colleagues out when they’re behind out of the goodness of our hearts, yet find that they reciprocate as quickly as possible to even the score. At home, our children’s playdates flip back and forth between our house and theirs, or one may feel put out and the other may feel beholden.
Send no money now. No obligation.
When your company gives to me, a potential customer, you claim there’s no obligation but I feel it anyway.
But…
The more detached and anonymous the interaction, the more you’re right.
What’s the answer for your small business?
If you want to create Maximum Customer Experience, think small. Do it sincerely, out of the goodness of your heart. Even a larger business can keep interactions warm and personal, to create a connection with me. Maybe your offer is no obligation, like those holiday cards. Still, Mrs. Jones suddenly felt the need to send a card back to you, didn’t she?
- Give literally, with samples
- Give figuratively, with advice
- Give constantly, with caring, attentive service
- Give generously, keeping the customer’s needs central to the interaction
The way you treat your customers every day can deliver an Experience that makes them feel connected to you, so that your relationship is not “no obligation” after all.
When a business owner or employee stops to give to you—what changes?
How do you make use of that irresistible urge to give right back, in your own business?
Have you found the hamburger yet?
Grow and be well,
Kelly Erickson












4 October 2008, 10:19 am
What about when a company gives to the community?
(Organizes a fun-run to raise money for charity, or helps sponsor a cultural event, etc…)
Even if it might be a tax-write-off, and they’re getting free advertising for themselves, it still takes a lot of work and volunteer time.
I kinda feel a bit more respect for companies that do this. (Heck, at least they’re doing SOMETHING for the public!)
4 October 2008, 10:21 am
PS.
I still haven’t forgotten that Free Harvey’s burger. And I’ve gone back to them several times since.
(In fact, Brett and I went there, earlier this week).
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4 October 2008, 10:34 am
Friar,
Your comment popped in the instant I turned the computer on. All I can say is, you’re hired. That’s an excellent addition to the list.
This was something I talked about a lot with folks during the word-of-mouth series earlier this year. It’s hard to measure the impact of it, but personally, if it’s a cause I care about, I do notice the sponsors.
The key there is to be tightly matched to the interests of the attendees. A small sporting goods store organizing the fun-run is likely to get business from the goodwill, as is a hospice, let’s say, if the run is for cancer. It’s when the local bank or grocery store is the sponsor (in that case) that I wonder, who’s gonna switch banks/ buy groceries because their name’s at the finish line?
Good one.
Regards,
Kelly
P.S. Oh, oh, I don’t see CommentLuv. Looks like something may have gone wrong last night. More tweaking today!
4 October 2008, 1:03 pm
testing commentluv
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4 October 2008, 1:32 pm
Oooh. Working great now, except that it repeats my choices twice in the “choose a different post” dropdown. Am I still doing something wrong?
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4 October 2008, 2:23 pm
Testing Lucia again…
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4 October 2008, 2:26 pm
NO way! 213 comments, Friar? WOW!
4 October 2008, 2:32 pm
Lucia is gone. I tweaked and tweaked, but it won’t behave discreetly. Not willing to have a plugin uglying up my design. (It was funny for a second to see how many comments you have here, Friar. I wouldn’t like to know if I’ve matched that at your blog…)
Okay, done test-commenting now. Let’s return to our regularly scheduled program. Good thing I’m doing this over the weekend…
4 October 2008, 5:49 pm
@Kelly
What’s this, about 213 comments…and “Wow” ?
(not sure if I’m missing something here)
???
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4 October 2008, 7:33 pm
Friar,
Yep, you’re missing something. I added a plugin last night, recommended by Graham, called Lucia LinkLove… it’s supposed to turn comments into do-follow after you’ve had a certain number of comments (which is good for your blog’s ranking, doesn’t do a thing for me). It seemed like such a nice thing to add because my readers are great, I wanted to give a little reward for being loyal commenters.
It wasn’t working right, maybe because it doesn’t like the newest version of WordPress, so earlier today I was messing with it. It said everyone here had no comments yet. Stupid.
Finally I got the number of comments to show up, that’s where the 213 came in—it’s the total number of comments you’ve made here, apparently—and it was showing up all ugly after your name. What I was aiming for was not having that info show up on the blog, so after tweaking the code for a while unsuccessfully, Lucia got dumped. I’m going to have to look for a more cooperative do-follow plugin.
If anyone can make a short story long, it’s me.
Later,
Kelly
5 October 2008, 1:08 pm
hmm… you are giving out do-follow links to top commentators – no obligation, right?
Sean.
5 October 2008, 1:24 pm
Sean,
Welcome. The obligation would be becoming an involved reader and commenter who adds value to the conversation, just as before, I suppose.
Regards,
Kelly
6 October 2008, 8:49 pm
Hi Kelly,
Sorry to hear about your Linky Love. I came up with a fix for you though — I emailed it to you this morning so check your inbox! Might be a little technical, but I got it to work on mine. You’re right, having the total number of comments does take away from the design!
~Graham
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