Are You the Fairest of Them All, or Have You Taken Your Eye Off the Ball?
They say that a cat doesn’t recognize his own reflection because an image on glass has no scent. No scent = Not cat, and certainly not himself.
Some time ago I worked with a client to assess strengths and weaknesses regarding the public’s Perception of his company. Sales were slipping, and he didn’t know why.
My assessment, in a word, was corporate arrogance.
Not the word I chose to use, of course, but the one that fit best.
They’d gotten big, kinda fast. They were justifiably proud of their growth, but they had a fatal flaw: they thought their growth was all about them, instead of seeing it was a joint effort between them, with their charming, early eagerness, and a band of their customers, who agreed to be charmed. (Yes, your customers must agree to be charmed by you.)
Lately, in the company’s quest for new customers, they had clearly been ignoring their old customers.
Their old customers, who had once been fans devoted to building something with the owner, figured he didn’t need them anymore, and stopped coming by.
He seemed to think he and his staff spent too much time with these loyal customers, and had acted too friendly with them. So he’d cooled off with people who believed they were “friends,” and his staff had followed his lead. It was all very professional. Hard to point a finger at.
Friendliness was what the old customers came in for, true enough; it almost felt like they’d been invited into the company’s living room.
As we discussed our findings, he discovered that old, loyal customers:
— Buy More Often — Spend More Money per visit — Refer Their Friends to become part of this living room atmosphere —
WAY more often than newer customers.
Not news to you, I hope.
It may have been too late for him to hear this news, because do you know what happened when he got our report and talked with us?
Sure you do.
He looked in the mirror I held up, but he didn’t recognize his reflection. (Like a cat.) Denied it applied to his company entirely. Essentially, he said, “We haven’t changed enough to bother anyone. Everybody else has changed.”
Blame the market. Blame Jean Chrétien (no, I don’t know why his name popped into my head). Blame the changing demographics of your town, blame the competition, blame those loyal customers. Ooh, it’s tempting.
If customers didn’t feel like hanging around your joint anymore, would you be brave enough to look in that mirror? Would you recognize yourself?
Grow and be well,
Kelly Erickson
P.S. I hope you’ll come by my living room again soon! The Devil’s Advocate takes on this subject later in the week.












21 October 2008, 8:54 am
“They say that a cat doesn’t recognize his own reflection because an image on glass has no scent.”
…Or maybe, Cats are just STUPID!!!
- Friar (aka Dog Person).
21 October 2008, 10:17 am
Kelly, this is a huge topic although I don’t know how many business owners realize it. People get their feelings hurt SO easily. Especially After the sale when you were their *best friend* before and the minute the money is in your hands you never chat with them again. That smells like garbage. It’s important to have some consistancy. Also, in regards to being self-observant and reflective…it’s critical to stay objective about your business and not take it personally. You are NOT your business. The minute your ego gets tied up in it, you will lose your objectivity and miss important signals, trends and possible inspirations. If you are TOO busy looking at your pretty face in the mirror you aren’t going to notice what’s going on.
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21 October 2008, 1:15 pm
Kelly,
No, no, no, you have it all wrong today. It isn’t, “Blame the market. Blame Jean Chrétien (no, I don’t know why his name popped into my head). Blame the changing demographics of your town, blame the competition, blame those loyal customers. Ooh, it’s tempting.”
Blame Canada.
Just kidding, I wonder if I should hold a mirror up in front of the bigwigs at the Factory? They seem to have forgotten a lot of stuff.
It isn’t just businesses, it’s everything. It can be as simple as a person’s blog. We must not forget the old, loyal ‘customers’ who helped us out when we were small.
(I know that you know that, and I know that, and Wendi & Friar know that.)
-Brett
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
21 October 2008, 1:37 pm
Friar,
…
Wendi,
I agree, it’s important not to get (too) personally involved on either side of a business transaction. I don’t thing there’s anything wrong with a friendly atmosphere or a purely professional one, but I think conscious decisions that don’t change on a whim are pretty handy… Most of all, if you ask me for help, and then don’t like it when you get the help, your objective (to bring sales back up) gets lost under ego. That’s a darned shame.
Brett,
Heh, as I was writing this the similarities to blog-writing struck me, too. There are certainly writers who seem to look around and wonder why everyone else has changed… it’s a hard mirror to look into, no doubt about it.
Best thing you can do is probably to keep those plans in front of you (or goals, or Vision), and check in the mirror more often. Then you can stop unwanted changes before there’s a huge Perception problem, in business or at your blog.
So much mirror talk. I feel like I should go check my lipstick or something, lol.
Regards,
Kelly
21 October 2008, 1:52 pm
Ha!
There’s a sign hanging in my community Center that says Brett Legree was here first! (figuritivly) It’s not ever coming down. I don’t forget.
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21 October 2008, 2:06 pm
“Blame Jean Chrétien…”
Hahahah!.
Don’t know why you thought of him either. He’s OLD NEWS, even up here!
But strangely enough, it’s actually somewhat relevant to today’s post.
We had our Big Election last week, and Stephane Dion (one of Jean’s former Liberal buddies) just lost big time.
Yesterday, he announced his resignation as Liberal Party Leader. And in his farewell speech he basically blamed everyone. It was the media. It was dirty campaign tricks. It was the lack of funding. The public just wouldn’t listen to his Carbon Tax idea. It was Stephen Harper…
Yup. It was the WHOLE WORLD’S fault he lost the election…except his own.
What a cry baby. Thank God this man didn’t become our Prime Minister.
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21 October 2008, 2:12 pm
Kelly,
Good point - real mirrors (and maybe Vision boards) are kind of handy for that. I keep my little motto from The Steve on my mirror, and I think I will add a few others on there too. My personal reality check. There is power in that, and it is helping me to get where I want to go - where I need to go.
Wendi,
You are one person I know who understands this very well, and it is why people like to visit your place.
Friar,
It was because his Canadian head looked funny bobbling around up there on TV. Canadians should not go on TV, we look funny with our South Park Canadian bobbling heads. Definitely the head.
-Brett
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
21 October 2008, 2:18 pm
Wendi,
He’s good people, that Brett. Many community centers have banners with his name, I suspect!
Perfesser,
I can’t tell you why, but how, I can tell you. I was trying to think of a way of saying “blame politicians” without getting into any current names, or any highly charged American names. I was stuck. So I sat back, hands behind my head, and stared at the ceiling to open myself up to possibilities… YES, I am that hippie… and his name came to me. So I checked him on Wikipedia to make sure he hadn’t done anything politically volatile since leaving office, and boom, he’s part of an American’s blog post.
The Universe wanted me to put Chrétien in, so I’d get to hear about Dion’s speech?
Or I carry around too much useless info in my head?
Your call. (Gentle when you hold that mirror up to me.)
Until later,
Kelly
21 October 2008, 2:29 pm
Brett,
I used to clog up walls, mirrors, with little reminders… my world looked like the walls of CBGB, with little quotations and random thoughts instead of band fliers.
I don’t thank goodness for computers too often, but for saving me (in my late 20s) from continuing to paper my walls with ideas like a teenager, I do thank computers. The only reminders I have left are a few art portfolios, covered in quotations collected long ago that still move me on my way. Lovely, semi-organized chaos.
Until later,
Kelly
21 October 2008, 2:30 pm
Very good post.
We have a sales guy here who is all (snap, snap, Love ya baby) and the office folks here hate him. He shows up late, leaves early, drinks at lunch.
You want to know why he is still here? Because the customers LOVE him. He takes care of them, makes them feel important and the customers keep coming back, spending more and staying loyal. Our company is expensive, hard to deal with and remote. Yet, yet, yet they remain. I hope we never lose sight of that and I hope we never lose him, cheers baby, who loves ya?
Francis
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21 October 2008, 2:38 pm
Kelly,
Oh yes, it could get out of hand for sure. I keep the little tidbit quotes in a Moleskine. Perhaps a few really important ones could go on the mirror or the wall.
(You know what’s nice? A program called Evernote - it can even find text in scans of handwritten notes. I often brainstorm with pen & paper, and my printing is very neat. Evernote is the killer application for me.)
Francis,
Yes yes yes! Your salesman understands two things - “the customer is always right” and “who is the customer?” - he knows the office staff isn’t his customer.
-Brett
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
21 October 2008, 2:48 pm
Francis,
Thanks. Sound like if you do lose him, it’ll be that ol’ corporate arrogance. Nah, it’s not about our happy customers, our growth is only about our own incredibleness! The heck with the customer!
Snap, snap, hope he stays on for a long time.
Brett,
I throw everything in Entourage. *Love it.* I’m always thinking about going with fancy Project Management software—not for notes, but for client info, and obviously project management—but with Entourage I can cross-link from a blog draft to a calendar entry to a customer who inspired me, all bundled with the MacBook. I’m a sucker for free, and the program does everything but chew my lunch for me. Hard to justify fancy stuff with pretty charts when I’m darned happy, and I’d still be using Entourage for non-client notes anyway.
Later,
Kelly
21 October 2008, 3:16 pm
Kelly,
Entourage is very good, I agree. I may buy Office 2008 just to have it
Evernote is hard to explain if you haven’t seen it, it’s just kind of neat - Mac, Windows versions, and they sync up across multiple machines - I capture a web page, images, text, handwriting at work, paste into Evernote, get home and open my Mac and there it is. If I had an iPhone, same thing. Very cool.
-Brett
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
21 October 2008, 7:53 pm
I recently stopped going to a restaurant that I used to enjoy for the same reason. Their place was fine but not great, the food was fine, but not great. What was great was the way you were treated when you were there. The waitresses and the management made you feel like family. Now when you go there, you never see the management and the waitresses don’t take the time to get to know you. It’s quite sad really.
Customer Service is everything!
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21 October 2008, 8:52 pm
Brett,
Ahaha, I’ve had Mac after Mac and Office after Office for so long, I forgot I have Mr. Gates to thank for Entourage and not The Steve!
Syncing would be worth looking into for me. I’m going to peek at Evernote and see if it’s got other abilities I could use. I’m not always at the same computers, and I do want/need/wish Santa would bring me an iPhone, that’s for sure.
Susan,
And you can be sure the management is sitting around blaming the economy right now. Customer Experience is what it all comes down to, because whatever product or service you offer, you are not alone. The Experience was that restaurant’s edge. Decide to cut back on the Experience, and folks go elsewhere, in any economy. It is sad.
Until later,
Kelly
21 October 2008, 9:01 pm
Kelly,
I guess the only reason I haven’t picked up Office 2008 is that I have been running Office 2007 Ultimate via VMware and with the Unity mode it is seamless i.e. it sits on top of your OS X desktop and you don’t see Windows at all. I only need Office once in a while for 100 percent compatibility, I usually work in Pages, Scrivener or one of half a dozen text editors.
Evernote is interesting - the free version (of course) has limited amounts of sync (i.e. you can only sync so much data per month). The “pro” version which is I think $5/month allows much more data. I had used Evernote a while back before they had sync and I liked it. When I got my Mac they didn’t have a Mac version, but then they brought one out and the sync thing for me is awesome. I’ll probably go “pro” soon to get the extra data capacity. Previously if I was at work (or wherever) and found a document I liked, I’d PDF it and email it to my home. With Evernote I can just cut / copy the web page or picture or whatever, then paste into Evernote.
When I get home, it’s on my Mac. Cool…
Tell you what - when I write my letter to Santa this year, I’ll ask him to bring one for each of us!
-Brett
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
21 October 2008, 9:03 pm
LOL. My letter to Santa Baby is so long, I’d better just start right off with Evernote Pro!
21 October 2008, 9:07 pm
Kelly,
You know what I always wanted was a G4 Cube. Maybe Santa will buy one off eBay and send it to me
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
21 October 2008, 9:08 pm
Kelly,
PS - Evernote is so much better on Mac than Windows (natch)
Brett Legree’s last blog post…john who?
22 October 2008, 12:19 am
I certainly enjoyed this post!! It’s interesting how the person featured in it, failed to recognize his own reflection. Blaming everyone else was easy!! Isn’t it true of many of us?
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22 October 2008, 6:51 am
Brett,
Ever-Thing is much better…
Evelyn,
Welcome! Oh, yes, I know I have my times when I don’t want to see the truth of what someone’s telling me. When it’s about the health of your business it’s important to push past that (maybe more than when someone says “orange is really not your color…”—LOL, that, you can ignore and call it “flair”).
Thanks so much for your comment!
Regards,
Kelly
22 October 2008, 8:42 am
Kelly, I am LMAO because I stopped here specifically for the title — which is what I say whenever I catch myself in the mirror, but it’s more along the lines of WTF is THAT? Who is that old person! After reading your post I’m like WTF took me so long!
Ain’t it the truth! The blame game. Hey, Mr. Lehman Bros, blame everybody but you, who drove the company into the ground and made off with billions in your personal stash, sending the market into a tailspin. Howsabout we spread YOUR wealth around, mmmkay? OR hey, Mr. Frank, of course it’s not your fault your boyfriend didn’t clue the rest of us in on the debacle at Fannie Mae..and on and on.
Adventures in customer service ultimately fall back to accepting responsibility, and, in the case of the employee, empowerment to fix the problem. Not going to happen if management/owners aren’t on board or dismiss issues out of hand.
I’ve been too chatty for a first visit, so I must be going. Thanks, Kelly!
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22 October 2008, 1:55 pm
Betsy,
Welcome! I’m so glad you stopped in—and fear not, you can’t leave too long a comment here at MCE. I’m all for long comments. Did you find me through another blog?
*shivers* Please, don’t remind me of that feeling when I look in an actual mirror… I know it well.
You nailed it right there. Everybody talks about the employee being on board, when fairly often, it’s because management isn’t that employees give up.
Thanks for your comment, I hope to see you around here often!
Regards,
Kelly
23 October 2008, 6:48 pm
Kelly, when I saw the title in my reader, I laughed because I of course immediately thought of aging! Yes, I looked in the mirror the other day and thought oh my gosh who is that? LOL! One decision to dye my hair later, I think I can take holding the mirror up on my business and giving it a good hard look. I’ve changed, in some ways for the better but I want to really be honest about things I’ve slacked off doing. Looking in that mirror is not always easy but a failure to do so can be deadly. Thanks for the reminder. Well sort of thanks, it’s painful but in a good way.
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