Staying Above the Fray, Part 3
Your one-and-only
It’s not you, it’s…
Well, yeah, it’s you.
I’ve been too nice for too long, because I was afraid of hurting your feelings. I like you, but…
You’re not my Ideal Customer.
If you want to stand alone as the Ideal Solution to Somebody, the big secret is that there’s a whole lot of nobodies you’re going to have to reject. A little overt exclusion is in order, so you can start talking directly to those people you want to feel included. It’s going to feel strange at first. You’re resisting the idea right now. I hear you on that.
We don’t want to dump our customers. Even the lousy ones. Even the ones who’ll waste all our time and hardly buy anything. Even the ones who are so disloyal they’re looking out our storefront window to see if the guy across the street’s having a sale. After all, a buck’s a buck, right?
You know I’m going to say wrong. Say it with me…
Wrong.
A dollar from a lousy customer is just that. A buck. May never see another from them, and they certainly have no need to tell anyone else to give you one. It might not even feel like a buck, if the hours and angst you have to put into making and keeping the sale eat all your profits—your time and stress are money!
So how does your Ideal Customer help you stay above the fray?
Your Ideal Customer knows you’re unique. Because you don’t have “everything for anybody,” you can talk straight to her, in her language, about what you do have, and she’ll be back just as soon as she can find an excuse. When she met you she was merely curious, but you’ve drawn her in. Now she’ll rave about you to her friends because she understands you clearly and knows exactly who else you can help. Heck, she feels a part of your success. She likes you, so obviously she wants you to succeed—your success is almost affirming to her ego!
Your incredibly focused innovations amaze your Ideal Customer. He needs this… this thing… and there you are. Danged if you don’t have the very thing he needs. How’d you do that? He doesn’t care how, because his problem is solved, and you did it. He can hardly wait to be the hero, solving other people’s problems by sending them to you to get their thing.
With your Ideal Customer, a buck is not a buck. It’s two, or three, or twenty, in repeat and referral business. Keep talking to them, and only them. Dump the rest, and regain your focus.
Sorry, we don’t seem to have that much in common. I tried, I really did. I just think you’d be happier someplace else.
And, well… I’ve found somebody who “gets” me. Someone whose needs I love fulfilling. It’s energizing, and it’s making me more money. It’s what being in business is supposed to be.
Good luck finding somebody cheaper, needier, more patient, and whatever else you want.
I’ve gotta go now.
Staying above the fray requires Vision, planning, and guts. The guts to focus on the Ideal Customer when it’s so tempting to be pulled in other directions. The guts to refer work elsewhere that’s wrong for you, or say no to brand “extensions” that muddy the waters. The guts to let the competition sway and bend, maybe picking up stray business that looks tempting, knowing that all that bending ultimately leads to a breakdown of Purpose that confuses customers and can take years to recover from.
One telltale sign that you’re doing it right may be that you’re ticking someone off. There are as many people who are appalled at Abercrombie & Fitch as are attracted to them for their advertising; as many folks who want to punch someone at Apple as who want to stand in line for their next gadget; as many folks who run screaming from the golf game when a Viagra commercial comes on, as who quietly dial up their doctor the morning after the U.S. Open.
Can you name a company that’s doing fine, even though they’re not that into you?
Never mind the competition, here comes Maximum Customer Experience! If you’re ready to ditch the time-wasters, the bargain-hunters, and the stress-creators who’re never going to be your loyal fans, how can you key in to serving only your Ideal Customer?
Grow and be well,
Kelly Erickson
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23 June 2009, 10:22 am
So right.
A week or so ago I had someone contact me about a problem. I responded that I could probably help him and quoted my minimum charge. This was a tech support thing.
He wanted to know if I had a direct answer to his problem. I didn’t – there are dozens of things that could cause the symptoms he was having; I’d need to poke around to determine the final cause.
He said he didn’t want to “pay for a fishing expedition”.
Fine, we were done. I get paid for “fishing”, he only wants to pay for fish that have already been caught. Nothing wrong with that, but he’s not my customer, and that’s the end of that.
Tony Lawrence’s last blog post…I’m a lousy sales person
23 June 2009, 10:46 am
nice one, Kelly. very good reminder. it’s easy to drop the very reason we went into business in order to please people. your focused approach keeps it healthy for both the customer and the business. I guess it’s just honest assessment and clear communication. I do need reminders of this one, thanks.
23 June 2009, 12:50 pm
@Tony – yes, so right. Some people want a guarantee that things will be better after they bring you on board, regardless of how complicated they’ve made things…
I’ve had similar experiences — someone wants me to write SEO content and guarantee (for “that price…”) that they’ll rank #1 in whatever keyword they’ve chosen. Like “web design”, for example (lol). I tell that that I can guarantee my web content will improve their ranking, but I can’t guarantee a certain position, I warn them against people who do make those promises, point them to the Google article on page ranking, etc. Usually that’s not good enough for them — which is fine because if that’s the case then whatever I give them won’t be good enough. So why not nip it in the bud?
“Fish or cut bait — or better yet, don’t fish at all if the feeling’s not right…”
~Graham
23 June 2009, 2:26 pm
Tony,
LOL “pay for a fishing expedition.” Some folks are just nervy. Good riddance and good luck to him finding a guarantee on what his problem is before a diagnosis!
Todd,
Definitely. It’s very easy to wake up and discover that the tail is wagging the dog if “Yes,” without consideration for how it fits into your plan, is your standard operating procedure.
Graham,
“…whatever I give them won’t be good enough.” Oh, my goodness. That is so true. The folks who need to be booted first are the ones you can never please. In a way, they’re looking for an excuse to leave every day. Might as well hand it to them and you’ll both be happier.
Well, you’ll be happier. And have more time for clients with a realistic understanding of what your work offers!
Regards,
Kelly
23 June 2009, 2:37 pm
“good luck to him finding a guarantee on what his problem is before a diagnosis!”
Yeah, that was my thought too..
People don’t seem to understand that time is ALWAYS going to get paid for. If you insist upon a price for ready to eat fish, that’s always going to include the cost and dangers of fishing, whether you realize that or not.
I think some of those people think I have a book where I can look up every possible thing that could cause his symptom. If I did, I’d sell the book: why have all this stress?
Sure, sometimes I do have a “fish” ready to serve. Most of the time, a simple Google search would have given them the same answer if they were only smart enough to know how to do a decent search
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23 June 2009, 5:03 pm
This reminds me of a question we frequently ask our customers:
Who is your target market?
Invariably, they answer: “Everyone!”
No. Wrong. Dead wrong. Everyone is not your target market. That person is a very specific person with very specific wants, needs and desires.
Does your company answer them? Or are you too busy trying to answer everyone else’s needs?
James Chartrand – Men with Pens’s last blog post…WordPress 2.8: It’s Time to Upgrade Your Site
23 June 2009, 5:07 pm
good point, James. very good point. I guess that’s why they say, “Pick your ideal customer and write directly to him or her.”
23 June 2009, 5:09 pm
@ Todd – That’s also often the funnest part of doing business. You get to sit down and think of this person. You write them out. Who are they? Where do they work? Are they tired? Kids? Job? Wife? Problems? Money or no money? What do they like in life? Kayaking? Reading? Why are they unhappy?
You get to map out a whole persona of the perfect person to buy from you – and you know why he needs you, why he wants you and exactly what will make him say, “Oh God, finally someone *gets* it! This is exactly what I need!”
Ding ding ding ding ding – we have a winner.
James Chartrand – Men with Pens’s last blog post…WordPress 2.8: It’s Time to Upgrade Your Site
23 June 2009, 5:12 pm
Thanks for that James. You know, that’s exactly what I need to do. And it does sound fun. I think I just found my next project.
23 June 2009, 5:15 pm
Ha, good stuff, Todd. I promise you’ll enjoy it – and it’ll make you think!
James Chartrand – Men with Pens’s last blog post…WordPress 2.8: It’s Time to Upgrade Your Site
23 June 2009, 5:18 pm
thanks a ton, James!
23 June 2009, 5:55 pm
Tony,
‘Tis true. Sometimes folks prefer the ready-to-eat pricing, even though it may end up costing more. No questions left in their mind. Why Saturn sold a heck of a lot of cars for a while there.
James, Todd,
Yes, yes! Just like that. Carry on.
Later,
Kelly
24 June 2009, 11:27 am
Abercrombie has often go too far. Remember those catalogs they had a few years ago? Or maybe they still do it. I don’t know, Abercrombie seems to be for teens but it’s ads go too far. I’ve seen their models walking half naked around the mall too, what is that about? They also do a lot of bait n switch I hear. Not a big fan I guess, especially since the clothes seem bland and typical.
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24 June 2009, 2:44 pm
Social,
Well, then, you’re one of the folks they’re ticking off, and I think you’ve caught on to the point here. They can’t be everything to everyone. And by realizing that, they can create loyal followers out of the smaller portion of the population that “gets it.”
Those loyal customers are what we all want!
Thanks for your comment, and welcome to Maximum Customer Experience.
Regards,
Kelly