Community and Experience
We all come from our own little planets. That’s why we’re all different. That’s what makes life interesting.
—Robert E. Sherwood
Dear readers and friends, crowd around. Having you join our luncheon once again is what makes this a round table discussion. I admit, even after The Death of Everything But ME Online, and the rollicking conversation we had here Tuesday—I’m still thinking about community and the planets we all come from.
As we do spend more and more time online, is it pie-in-the-sky to think we can, or we should, engage each other meaningfully in the 2.0 world? Can a few dashed-off words be substitutes for deeper discussions that took a bit of time out of our virtual days, in the not-too-distant past, and created a richer online experience?
If I engage you (or hope to), human-to-human, have you become too cynical to believe I’m sincere? Is the shortchanging of conversation encouraging that cynicism?
In talking to a “2.0 friend” last night on the phone, we were wondering how much has changed—we are able to spread ideas and beauty so far in our www, and how we’ll interact is definitely evolving right now—but for me, the ideas and the discussions are the same as ever. Funny, I think he was a little surprised that I’m real. But I’m sure he wouldn’t have liked it if I were surprised that he’s real. Only my ability to reach out to you, right where you are, has changed. In the 1.0 world I was still a designer, an artist, a businesswoman, (an obvious post-hippie throwback), and a writer. Once I was quite fond of hosting dinner parties to meet great new people and stir up the fantastic exchanges I aim for here at MCE with your help.
Now, we belly up for virtual martinis at the Round Table, but man, the guest list is always stunning. Thanks for being here.
My point is (oh, yes, I have a point), there aren’t two worlds. You, my dear reader, have chosen to spend part of your time here, online. 2.0 is same as it ever was. With a screen. “Community” isn’t a dirty marketing invention to rope you in—though some companies can abuse the idea, for sure, and some companies (like yours!) are as sincere as I am. When I see the explosion of distractions and the implosion of attention spans online, I worry that we’re losing something critical, and making a foothold for cynical isolation. Being an active part of the online world, and not a passive receiver, is still a worthwhile pursuit—on a personal level, professionally, and yes, for creating a great Experience for your customers.
I’ve invited new friends and old to share their fresh perspectives today. I hope you’ll enjoy getting to know them—leave them a comment, and come on back to share your thoughts around the Maximum Customer Experience Round Table!
Post-hippie optimism alert: “Researchers put a cute-looking cardboard robot on the streets of New York. It could only go forward but it had a note asking people to help it to its destination. It got there quickly with the help of 43 people. They asked for nothing in return.” Want proof that there aren’t two worlds? Head on over to Tim Berry’s (oft-linked) Planning, Startups, Stories to read and watch The Web as Random Acts of Kindness.
Chris Brogan, too, had a chance to talk with a friend he knows through his blog this week. In Feeling the Community, Chris explores the nature of the communities we’re most comfortable with online. Be sure to check out the comments, which carry the discussion even further.
In Do Blog Readers Buy? James Chartrand of Men With Pens took a look at community from a different perspective. My takeaway: focus as you try to build a community. It is okay to want to gain something from your efforts, at the same time as you want to give something away.
Need some examples of companies that have successfully created online communities to inspire you and give you ideas? Try (the inauspiciously titled) Five Companies That Fix Their Story To Inspire Service, by Valeria Maltoni (of Conversation Agent) at Fast Company, and Validating Customers on Twitter, by Steve Finikiotis at TouchPoints. How can you create Maximum Customer Experience online? “Unlike a lot of companies whose message is ‘Gee, look how cool we are,’ Zappos’ message is ‘Wow! Look how cool our customers are.’” Yep. That ought to do it.
Last—ripped from Steve’s comment section, this video which I promise has nothing whatsoever to do with MCE, and everything to do with thanking you. You’re awesome, but don’t take my word for it. The award-winning short film Validation from Kurt Kuenne, at YouTube.
Thanks, as always, for the pleasure of your company and your commentary. Let’s do lunch again soon.
Love ‘em? Hate ‘em? Learn something fantastic as you clicked around? Think I missed the best one of the week? Have your say in the comments—you know you want to!
Grow and be well,
Kelly Erickson
If you’re going to write, don’t pretend to write down. It’s going to be the best you can do, and it’s the fact that it’s the best you can do that kills you.
—Dorothy Parker
Last time, Mrs. Erickson and the Vision Circle (that’s you) entertained:
Top-Secret Ways To Deliver Delight!
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26 September 2009, 6:24 am
I think you meant, “In Screw Community, James took a look at…”
And here that link is : http://menwithpens.ca/screw-community
With more good stuff to come Monday!
James Chartrand – Men with Pens´s latest blog… What’s Your Style of Writer Underpants?
26 September 2009, 6:37 am
James,
LOL I did not mean that. You got a link for Screw Community on Tuesday.
I love the MCE community.
And I think you meant, “What a meaty post! I really dig The Web as Random Acts of Kindness, and Kelly, you should have put a hankie alert on Validation!!”
Nice that we can read each others’ thoughts like that.
Regards,
Kelly
26 September 2009, 6:55 am
I was going to write EXACTLY THAT!! Until I got distracted, because you wrote this:
And I went on a witchhunt for something I wrote just a couple of days ago about reality. Which of course I can’t find. Dammit. It went something along the lines that people seem to not really think you’re real unless you have a picture to show them or a voice they can hear. Odd.
Must find it.
James Chartrand – Men with Pens´s latest blog… What’s Your Style of Writer Underpants?
26 September 2009, 8:45 am
See. I’m a mind reader, too. Now that’s a value-added bonus for my clients!
Until later,
Kelly
26 September 2009, 12:08 pm
“…people seem to not really think you’re real unless you have a picture to show them or a voice they can hear. Odd.”
Given the current acceleration of computers… we might want to see a picture of the person, hear a voice, even have a meeting, lest we’re texting to HAL 9000.
26 September 2009, 12:21 pm
You know, Kelly, I think I both agree and disagree with you here. How’s that for a bold declaration.
There aren’t two worlds. People on the other side of that online community are people. (Unless one of them is actually HAL 9000)
On the other hand, there are two worlds. Often, people online try to be someone they’re really not. But then again, I guess that’s just like real life, isn’t it? Okay, I retract. There aren’t two worlds.
26 September 2009, 3:09 pm
Brett,
Sure, photos and voices are fine, but it’s also true that over time your “realness” shows up if you’re putting yourself out there constantly online. (Authenticity, to use an overused word.)
Whether my photo’s over to the left or not, if I’m a crackpot, or HAL, I’ve sure gone to a lot of effort to construct this seamless persona over the years. And the same with you, and some other faceless folks I know.
That’s the same as it ever was, too, as Jay says…
Jay,
My thinking exactly. Believe me (!!!), I have known some folks IRL who are not at all what they seem to be on the outside (and we can probably all think of companies with the same split between outward message and internal methods).
Billy Joel wrote “The Stranger” about that very problem somewhere around 30 years ago, and it’s still as frighteningly true today. I think that’s why online communities can’t just be plunked down, fully formed, as a marketing scheme; they take time to evolve.
So we can decide whether we’re dealing with HAL or not!
Until later,
Kelly
26 September 2009, 3:26 pm
True… until the AI is also capable of being authentic, over time
Don’t worry, I am agreeing with you, I’m just being silly today!!! Sometimes I do feel as though I “know” some people online more than I do certain people in meatspace.
26 September 2009, 3:32 pm
” as real as a guy pouring a cup of coffee”, Jack Webb in reference to his new Black and white TV series in the early fifties( a move from Radio to TV)
The show initially lagged in the overall ratings, but developed a loyal following of real cops, etc….in other words the people who recognized its realness…just the facts” became a classic..
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,820595,00.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfkugbASxCY
What’s my point? Nothing real about medium, it’s waves and particles right? It’s the people involved and what they choose to make of it that encourage the connections.
Great week Kelly, solid, classic and kick ass…
26 September 2009, 4:13 pm
Brett,
So. true. I know plenty of people better online than IRL. I almost think it can be easier to be authentic when you unfold so slowly, as you have to online.
Janice,
Big grin. Thanks!
It’s what we choose to make of it, for sure. And that, too, never changes.
If I keep agreeing with everyone Friar’s going to pop in and insist on a group hug, and you know how tricky that can be with a MacBook screen. I think I’d better start grumbling.
Later,
Kelly
26 September 2009, 4:16 pm
Whoa. He was 30 when he created Dragnet. My, oh, my!
26 September 2009, 4:36 pm
Isn’t there an app called iHug on your Mac?
26 September 2009, 4:49 pm
Oh my goodness. You HAVE to develop that. A little Mac app, a little iPhone app…
I’m first in line for it!!
26 September 2009, 7:57 pm
Well, at least I could put that iPhone developer toolkit to good use then (I have it).
I’d have to be careful though, iHug was an ISP in New Zealand that was bought up by Vodafone, maybe they’d sue me!
Unless I gave them a hug, of course.
26 September 2009, 9:20 pm
Ah. Yet another fine excuse to head off to NZ, eh? Yes. You should do it.
28 September 2009, 9:29 am
IRL? Why do you keep talking about the Indy Racing League? No mention of methanol, ovals or slick tires. Very stange comment section.
Eyegearheadguy
Eyeteaguy´s latest blog… Lessons you can learn from F1 – revisited
28 September 2009, 9:37 am
Francis,
Coming from a guy with a nickname like “Eyeteaguy”… of course, you would not know the IRL stands for In Real Life. (??)
You probably know more funky little acronyms than I do, but tx for reminding me to watch my shorthand.
Later,
Kelly
28 September 2009, 11:44 am
You mean to tell me that MCE is not real life? Real people, making real comments on real computers on a real subject?
Hmmm, I’m going off to play Unreal Tournament. Just like real life, I can’t die and if I do I just re-spawn.
I still think we should have a rountable discussion on the lack of refueling in F1 next year.
EyeF1guy
Eyeteaguy´s latest blog… Lessons you can learn from F1 – revisited